Medicating Women’s Feelings

I think both guys and girls can agree that this notion of girls being termed as ‘crazy’ is a fairly common thing. On this my co-blogger once presented me with a radical idea: what if girls aren’t crazy at all,but really just acting out our natural biological impulses and the only reason we are classified as ‘crazy’ when we do this is because its the guys who are doing the classification?!

This article expands upon this idea and says “Women’s emotionality is a sign of health” as “By evolutionary design, we are hard-wired to be sensitive to our environments, empathetic to our children’s needs and intuitive of our partners’ intentions.”

>>Medicating Women’s Feelings<<

-Monisha

Exhaustion is not a status symbol

An interview from an author who has produced some excellent TED talks. I personally liked what she said around perfectionism (how you will never find CEO’s or elite athletes attribute their success to perfectionism because perfectionism is not motivated internally. For true success you have to accept that there will be times when you win and times when you lose).

Another interesting point she mentioned was around always needing to be productive and not being able to measure self-worth without productivity. I know I have personally felt the pressure to always be busy. If you’re not always busy completing tasks, meeting people and doing activities then how can you really measure your life right?But maybe its the lack of time in between doing all those things that makes us feel stressed and just generally lost. Maybe this notion of being always busy has left us unable to cope with everything that we are left with when we are not.

>> Exhaustion is not a status symbol <<

-Monisha

Hope for the world

Happy New Year!

It’s quite refreshing to start of this year with an article like this one. Among all the news about missing planes, mass genocide, Ebola, abusive athletes, etc. ( you get the point), it’s pretty easy to start looking at the state of the world as being in shambles. But as this articles says, to really judge the state of the world you need to look at the trend lines, not the headlines. I like how this piece broke it down and went into each reason why we believe the world to be in a sorry state. It talks about the trends of each of these topics, such as mass killings, violence against women and children, the inevitable fall of democracy, etc. and how while we may perceive these things to be at an all time high due to the way they are portrayed by the media, in reality most of these calamities have been steadily declining over the last few decades.So really then the things that have been on the rise are the ubiquity of news (thanks to social media) and the dramatic way in which news is portrayed.

>> The world is not falling apart <<

-Monisha

Listening to Xanax

This article is presented really well because the writer owns up to her bias on the topic and you can clearly tell she herself does not know how to feel about this topic because there are just so many differing opinions on it.  It’s interesting because mental health and taking medications for mental health have such a stigma when really it’s more or less the same thing as physical health. You have a cold you take some Sudafed. You have an episode of anxiety you take a Xanax. Really, considering both things are coming from your body chemistry and you have little control over them, this should be how it works. But maybe because of society or bias or whatever it is, it’s just really hard to think this way.

I thought of this at the point in the article where it reads “The mind is a muscle…with practice you can teach it to handle anxiety.” I found myself initially nodding along and agreeing to the point that dependence on pills was not a good thing. But really maybe this translates back to the very same stigma on mental health which  prevents us from accepting that for certain people this really is not something you can control and they really do need that medication.

A heavy topic but one that has been presented very well:

>> Listening to Xanax <<

Excerpt:

“The real love affair, then, is not with the pills but with the anxiety itself. Anxiety is like the spouse you’re stuck with for better and worse, who makes you nuts but has permeated your cells and without whom you cannot imagine your own heart beating. Anxiety lives with you day and night, holding your hand and nudging you to act, urging you to get up, do more, fix something, make something. Never satisfied, always pressing, it wants you to win, to outlast the others, to impress, excite, excel, astonish. And, as in a marriage, you comply, mostly agreeably, for your anxiety traces the rhythm of your life. Then one morning, it has you by the throat and you find yourself weepy and overwrought, unable to respond to its call. Like a reliable friend, Xanax is there, offering an intermission, the gift of quietude, a break. Because the truth is, and I’ll speak for myself here, I want tranquillity once in a while. But I don’t want a tranquil life.”

-Monisha

What’s your story?

A good friend of mine was telling me about how she had heard a talk on  the power of storytelling a few weeks ago. I found the topic intriguing,especially since I have always struggled with telling stories in a way which both gets the point across and manages to captivate the audience throughout. I think this is a key skill to have since the success of any product/service/person comes down to how well its been marketed. And how do you market something effectively? By telling your story in a way which makes the audience believe what you want them to believe.

According to this article these are the key things to keep in mind while developing a good story:

■ Know who your audience is.

■ Have a beginning, middle and end. (That sounds obvious, but people often forget that.)

■ Use concrete details and personal experience.

■ Don’t self-censor.

>> Storytelling Your Way to a Better Job or a Stronger Start-Up <<

-Monisha